This is Your Permission Slip to Be TOO MUCH!

Ever worry about being too much?

Does it feel taboo to acknowledge your brilliance — to celebrate the unique genius you bring to the world?

If yes, you’re not alone.

As I sit with the emotions of launching a book into the world — a project three years in the making with relentless writing, publishing, and marketing effort — I’m struck by the rollercoaster of feelings that came with it. This journey was anything but easy. It demanded courage, vulnerability, and serious strategy. And yet, on publication day, what did I feel?

Worried that I was being too much.

Even some well-meaning voices in my network cautioned me against “overloading” my social media. Don’t post too often. Don’t be too celebratory. You might turn people off.

But when is it okay to have a day — or a season — that’s fully yours? To relish your wins, own your value, and shine unapologetically?

When we worry about being “too much,” we shrink ourselves to make others more comfortable. We dull our light. We stay in our “place.”

I’m calling BS on that.

Especially for women, we’re conditioned from early on to tone ourselves down — too passionate, too emotional, too loud, too intense. But what if our “too muchness” is actually what the world needs? What if it’s the key to becoming who we’re meant to be?

Photo by: Erin Waynick

As a neuroscience nerd, I love exploring the science behind our behaviors. One of my favorite insights: stress impacts our effectiveness. Too much stress can send our brains into foggy, reactive territory — but guess what? Too little stimulation can do the same thing, resulting in lack of engagement, boredom, and underuse of our gifts.

Like Goldilocks, we’re wired to find the “just right” zone — the space where we’re in flow. But how do we know what “just right” is if we never allow ourselves to explore too much?

In our professional lives, in building our personal brands, in simply showing up as our full selves — how many of us actually know what “too much” feels like? Most of us are far more familiar with the “too little” zone, where we hold back to avoid making waves.

But here’s the thing: playing small doesn’t serve anyone. Not you. Not your audience. Not your purpose.

If we want to make a meaningful impact, we need to dance in the “too much” zone — to try it on, feel it out, and adjust until we land in the rhythm that’s uniquely ours.

So, if you need it, consider this your permission slip:
Be too much.
Be bold.
Be loud.
Be everything.

You just might find that your “too much” is exactly right.

And if you’d like support exploring this with a thought partner, I’m opening up two exclusive 1:1 coaching spots starting in June. I’d love to work with those who are ready to boldly step into their next chapter.

Hit reply or send me a note if you — or someone in your network — would like to explore whether it’s the right fit.

I’m cheering you on.

For the world needs who we were made to be.